When a patron discontinues his or her pledge, they are offered an exit interview. This gives them a chance to explain why they’re leaving.

I’ve found this to be the classic good news / bad news situation.  Here’s why:

“It’s not you — it’s me.”

Patreon has long told us that the primary factor in a patron ending a pledge is that their financial situation has changed. And the statistics back this up pretty clearly. Just glancing down the page, makes it clear that an ended pledge is more about the patron than it is about the content being offered. (And, yes, I realize that this assumes that the ex-patron is telling the truth.)

The second-most-popular answer: I only intended to pledge for a limited time. That backs up a philosophy we’ve discussed here in the past. Many Patreon backers do not view their pledge as a long-term commitment. That’s important to note as you’re developing your rewards. If you’re setting up rewards that pay out over a long period of time, you may be missing a significant portion of pledgers who don’t plan to stick with you for that long.

Here’s how my responses (Since September) broke down:

So… the good news is this: You can stop beating yourself up over lost backers. Most of them have dropped out for reasons that have nothing to do with your content. And the others had a pre-determined time frame in mind when they joined. And your content did little to change that.

Give it the proper weight

Perhaps the most-offered advice on the Internet is “Don’t read the comments.” It’s simple, the perceived anonymity of the Web emboldens people to write things that they’d never say to another person’s face. It’s for that reason that I’ve posted several pieces (like this one) that try to help properly walk the balance between gauging reader feedback and being creatively paralyzed by it.

The Feedback column in the Patreon Exit Interview has the potential to be just as frustrating as reader comments.

But the more dangerous area, by far, lies in getting to emotionally invested in these comments. I found myself obsessing over a single negative comment. The amount of brain space I devoted to it was — honestly? — depressing. What’s worse is this: Most of the comments in the feedback section were positive. But me, I couldn’t see those because I was too focused on  the negative ones.

Now, as I’ve said before, you can’t afford to disregard comments from Patreon backers completely. In fact, I’ve argued that their comments should be taken much more seriously than run-of-the-mill reader comments. So, do take some time to read and reflect on the comments you’re getting there.

Just don’t let yourself get derailed.